Dear Jenny Rei,
(posted May 25, 2007)
to get to know her..
your current probably tells you that he wants to get to know you more and may also add "everything about you".. so there's the question and answer portion thing.. at first it may seem like "not a bad idea" until he started digging up your ex's memories.. believe me, current usually tends to get hurt by ex's memories.. no matter how open-minded your current claims to be, one way or the other, one question and one answer leads to argument..
so there's the conflict lies.. you see, is it worth to argue over something that happened a lifetime ago? you're only hurting yourself and your partner.. we all have a fair share of indelible pasts, but as the word itself - past, means it already happened and there's nothing we can do about it but learn from it and used that lesson to have a better future, ayt?
some of you may argue that "pasts sometimes haunts us" so its hard to just forget it.. true enough.. but isn't it unwise to risk your present by continue "fearing" your past? or maybe you're tough enough to dug past issues to know the limit of your current relationship? what's the use of putting your happiness in the rough road? what's the benefit of hurting both of you over spilled milk?
sure its pretty hard to accept that your beloved suffered a lot in the past, or your beloved shared happy or even intimate moments with her ex(s), but its history.. what matters is that those men loses is your gain.. appreciate that you're the one she's loving now..
to get to know her may sometimes means to help her know herself more and not the usual "i'll know you better if you tell me everything about you in the past".. do not dwell on the past, work on your present instead and look forward to a better future..
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